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Beautyflow.com luvourearth
"Help!!!!!!!!!! I have super big armpit hair. But my mom wont let me shave till I'm 16. Its embarrassing, and I swim!!!!! And, its dark, dark, black. HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Keliko
Why won't she let you shave???

This Years Girl
"Well, you are going to have to respect your mother's wishes. I do, however have a few suggestions for you that may help. First, how old are you? Are you close to 16? If so, can you calmly sit down with your mother and explain how embarrassed you are by the situation when you swim and perhaps offer a compromise like just shaving your armpits during the summer when you swim but not your legs until you reach 16. Or perhaps using a depilatory on your arm pits? Be calm and mature and maybe your mother being impressed by your rational will agree. If that does not work may I suggest a cute swim top like a "rash guard"? It looks like a little t shirt that the surfer girls wear. It will cover your armpits and give you that cute athletic surfer girl look. Roxy Surf Wear sells them and I am sure you can find them online somewhere or perhaps Pac Sun sells them. Of course you won't get as tan as wearing a normal swim suit but you are going to have to decide which issue is a bigger one for you (tanning vs. arm pit hair) and tanning isn't that good for you anyway. Good Luck to you!

luvourearth
idk. she thinks im 2 young.

babyd22
"F THAT i would shave it anyway, trust me your mom cant be that much of a beoch to want you to suffer. what is she gonna do

jumpfrog
"hey luvourearth,you definitely need to talk to your mom about it. like this years girl i suggest explaining rationally that everyone shaves once their armpit hair grows in. explain it is a matter of basic hygiene. oh and you are not alone. although my mother let and encouraged me to shave my armpits, she was pretty against shaving my legs until i was 12. good luck

This Years Girl
"Please don't listen to babyd22. You do not want to lose your mom's trust over something as silly as arm pit hair. If you shave it anyway after your mother told you not too, she will feel if she can not trust you on this little matter, then why should she trust you on bigger issues (like, oh..I don't know..a driver's license!) Your mom is not a beoch, she is probably trying to protect you from appearing older than you are and wants what's best for you. Mom's who set ground rules do it out of love. She probably just doesn't realize how it embarrasses you, that's all. Talk to her. If you need help getting started, show her this message board and say "See? That's me." BTW I am not some old person - just rational.

fieryred
"I think having long, dark unshaved arm pit hair will likely age the poster quite a bit. Luv, how old are you?

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Mymoneychild1
"Your mom is afraid of you growing up too fast...it is a fear all mom's have. Try saying something like, "Mom I know my growing up scares you and saddens you in some ways, and it scares me too. But maybe we can work together on this small issue of shaving just my under arm hair for now and that will give us good practise for handling bigger issues that will come up later, like shaving my legs and driving a car and dating. Afterall, I AM growing up and neither of us can really stop that." If having a heart to heart with your mom does not work, maybe a little help from another mom might? This might be a crazy idea, but does one of your friends have a mom that really likes you and you can confide in? If so, maybe you can get her to casually say to your mom: "You know, I didn't want to say anthing to "luv" because I don't want to embarass her, but I've noticed that she has a lot of very noticable under arm hair. Have you talked with her about shaving?" This might get your mom thinking that maybe she's being a little over protective and that it's only natural for a young girl to want to shave her under arm hair.

The_Wise_Youngin
"hey, i think that you should listen to the rational answers, and talk to your mom. tell her it's embarrassing. tell her it's not good hygiene. maybe she'll be sympathetic and listen.but if you do shave your arm pits anyways, i mean, is your mom really gonna see it? does she pay attention?i'd talk to her first. if she still said no, then i'd do it.. but hey, that's just me..

Scoop358
"I'd say do it anyways. My mom did the same thing to me when I was a teenager. Everthing that I wanted to do had a age with it. Has your mom seen your armpits and still says no? Just do it and don't tell her. If she notices tell her your only a kid and you just don't have any armpit hair! -or- Make make her feel embarrased or guilty for being so controlling by bringing up the armpit hair in from of a group of adults she's with. Make it like a joke, she'll realize she's just being unreasonable when the other adults look at her like she's crazy.

Sara-san
"I just did it. I looked up online how to shave and I got a razor. If you are old enough to grow armpit hair you're now old enough to control certain parts of your body. They may not allow you to get a piercing or a tattoo or go to school wearing a mini skirt, but hair is a different story. Your mom sounds very controlling and not very understanding. When my mom found out I was shaving my armpits she started crying and hugging me saying I was becoming a women. (This was repeated upon my first period). When your mom sees it explain that you were embarrassed and sick of being an outcast to your female peers. If she is mad I would follow up with "atleast i didn't get tattoed/pierced/have sex/get pregnant". My mom was late with everything. She never showed me how to shave or do anything that I needed to do as I became a woman, so I know how embarrassing it is. Take control of your body, how long can she stay upset about hair?

facetious01
"okay.. your mom sounds strange.. Is she amish or something? It is absolutel disgusting, and makes you look like you have some sort of mental definciency when you do not shave your pits. This is th weirdest thing ever...

missheru
"Wow, since when does having normal body hair become some sort of "mental deficiency" (facetious01, seriously?) or "unhygenic" practice? Its more of an embarrassment issue in a society that demands women and men to look a certain way. How weird would you call a man who shaves or waxes his armpits? The fact is, we all have a standard of beauty to live up to, and its really sad. Anyhow, to the topic on hand...Suggestion: Have a pleasant conversation with your mom about perhaps taking care of the hair that embarrasses you so. Level with her, ask her when she started shaving. Ask her why she won't allow you to do so. Explain to her how embarrassing it is for you to have people look down on you. Explain to her that it doesn't mean you are suddenly going to start dressing like a hooker and having sex with people. Explain to her that you would just simply like to be able to swim and wear clothes without having to fear stares. It can be a cultural thing, depends on how your mom was brought up I guess. If your mom is seriously upset about the whole idea of hair removal, doing it behind her back is just going to upset her more. Yes, she will have to get over it eventually, but trust will be an issue. Perhaps because you went behind her back and did something she would have preferred you not to do, what's to say she'll trust you to stay out late? Yes, it sounds ridiculous, but trust is a sensitive issue with parents, especially parents of teenagers in a society where little girls are growing up WAY too fast (have you seen the clothes in limitedTOO?). I know, you aren't little, you're a teenager, etc. But you will always be your mom's little girl. That's all I can suggest. Sit down, discuss pleasantly, ask nicely.

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