"Do men really want a "girly" girl??" > - Beauty and Fashion >

Beautyflow.com loony luna
"I've read what men think of women's fashion so far as sex appeal, but I'd like to see what they have to say for women who are a little more tom-boyish. Can girls where sports jerseys (and not the little cute ones) and get away with it? What about long shorts? Loose rock n' roll tees? converse and other unisex tennis shoes? what do guys think when they see a girl wearing clothes like this?? I think that's a topic to be addressed..at least for us girls who feel restricted by those clingy little lycra tops.

Keliko
"It depends on the guy. In Hawaii a lot of girls are way more sporty than girly.I guess it can also depend on the fine line between being a tomboy and sporty and actually being masculine. Personally, I still feel feminine even in a loose tee or long shorts it's possible to be feminine. It's more about behavior than the actual clothes. I think guys like best a girl who is feminine enough to be considered sexy and appealing, but sporty enough to be approachable. It's all about balance

Almond_roca
"Men also have different tastes just like us. I have seen beautiful girls in more casual clothes/natural makeup who have no problem getting attention from men. But, if someone has to look twice to see whether you are a girl or guy, I don't that would be very attractive to most men. You could wear shorts, jeans, tshirts but as long as it doesnt look like you stole your boyfriend's clothes or shopped from the mens section you should be fine. Think of it this way in reverse. Metrosexual guys are fine with me, including using a hair straightener (which cracks me up). But, honestly speaking if the guy goes too overboard that he is just as feminine as me (in clothing and behavior) I would find it unattractive & turned off a bit. I would feel that I am with one of my girlfriends. Its just that when we are together, I want to feel that I'm the lady. I think the reverse would be somewhat true with guys.

catwoman708
"From years of observation, the type girls that turn the most heads and make men temporarily "ga-ga", are the ones who make an effort to look "presentable", as in well-groomed, feminine, and are very self aware of their appearance. Other women call them "high maintenance", or "fake fatales" because they often have beached or high maintenance hair, fake nails, always have on make up, and cannot function if their hair is not styled or they aren't wearing a coordinated ensemble outfit in the specific "look" of the occasion (LL Bean ensemble for a camping trip, navy and white nautical outfit for lunch at the boat club, or always have to dress up one step above every other woman in the crowd). But those type women don't always stay around long. The type women men often end up with for girlfriends or wives are companionable, casual ,down-to-earth, and more self-sufficient. They can be feminine, but not "frilly", coquettish, or helpless without a man. If you're asking do guys like girls who dress in loose tees, baggy clothes, or sports type clothes, maybe some do. Most of the young ladies I know who do dress that way are not exactly antisocial, but it's as if they are "hiding" themselves, or going for anonymity. They rarely if ever get asked out. When they do, it is usually by a similarly afflicted guy, who is stuck in menial jobs because he only dresses in baggy jeans and tees, and is not very socially adept, a poor communicator, and can barely function in society. I guess it's fine to dress for comfort and utility on occasion, but not so exclusively that you cannot fit in with the general population when it comes to socializing or carreer opportunities. You can dress comfortably without looking slouchy or being trussed up in a tight or revealing lycra outfit. If that's what you're asking, I'm sure there would be plenty of suggestions on how to be feminine AND comfortable.

KATY_did
"I am confused on what the OP meant. Do you mean sporty as in shopping on the men's side of the clothing or sporty as in Kendra on the Girls next door on E and Jen Garner sporty. Those maybe lame examples, but both of those women are sporty(physique and clothing) but always manage to look cute and clean up great.

This Years Girl
"I think what she meant was definitely not like GND Kendra. She means wearing large Tshirts and jerseys from the guys dept. and not the skinny "girly" t shirts. I also think that it would mostly depend on the guy. Some guys see those high maintenance girls as unapproachable and some guy see them as ideal. I suppose any thing would be ok as long as you are clean and it fit well (not too tight, not falling off too loose) and in good repair ( no stains or holes). Beauty is, after all, in the eye on the beholder...

KATY_did
"i agree thisyears. There is no such thing as "the perfect woman". Bob's perfect woman will not be Billy's perfect woman. If there was a cookie cutter woman that all men liked, that wouldn't be very fun! Men are just like women. Some women like metro guys, where they get on my nerves!!! Some women like complete men, who don't know how to groom(austin powers) HAHA! I like somewhere in between, but that's just IMHO. There is a guy out there for EVERY kinda girl, it just depends on WHAT TYPE of guy you are trying to attract!

Mymoneychild1
"My opinion, women should be feminine. It is our feminity that is intoxicating to men. BUT that does not mean we should be helpless. We can be feminine, with beautiful hair and beautiful nails and girly girl clothes, yet be strong and capable. That said, wear the men's shirt and long shorts when you're say, changing the oil in your own car (a very capable thing to do), other than that, leave them in your closet! (Though your husband or boyfriend would probably prefer that you wear a bikini.) I agree with Keliko, who posted: "I think guys like best a girl who is feminine enough to be considered sexy and appealing, but sporty enough to be approachable. It's all about balance ." A girl can be girly and sexy and still be real and down to earth. I think that's what turns guys on. And no, I could never see myself wearing a sports jersey...but that's just me. Though my husband would probably think it was pretty sexy if that was the only thing I was wearing.

loony luna
"thanks for your help everyone. I definately see what you mean about balance.. I didn't intend to sound like a walking hobo..( I think clean is a must)but I really appreciate the honesty in the "right type of men" being young and living in the suburbs can't help either..I just hope one day I can find a guy who likes me wearing my Aerosmith concert tee more than some random top with butterflies

Mymoneychild1
"Dear Loony Luna, Despite what the rest of us might think, or what our opinions are, you have hit the nail right on the head. What is most important is being you and finding someone who loves and appreciates you for exactly who you are.

Almond_roca
"Exactly, and being a girly girl doesnt automatically equate to attention from men. It can intimidate guys too. And sometimes it gives an impression of being high maintenance (well, sometimes I can be, but thats too bad, because I'm worth it. ok, never mind my sarcasm.) I typically wear dresses, skirts most of the time and take pride in being a 'girly' girl because that works for me and makes me confident. It makes me feel like a classy lady. My husband loves that about me and finds it incredibly irresistable. But, to another guy, that could be annoying. Confidence and how you carry yourself makes the difference. Clothes and appearance also plays a part in it.

Venice21
to be honest not really. I mean my guy doesn't mind if I spend the night and hang out in a pair of boxers and a tee but I know that he wouldn't look at me in the same light if I wore basketball shorts and a concert tee. I am not uber valley girl but I have enough respect for myself to look nice and presentable for my man regardless if we are at home or going out. I hate to sound so harsh but I see so many women go out with their hair undone and in clothes that should be worn at home. Don't get me wrong I cant stand wearing bindin clothes all day so I'll hang out in a nice pair of jeans or a tank but that's about as casual as I go. Men like a polished girl. You don't have to go absolutely out of your way all the time but you should at least make the effort to look nice.

curiouser
"I think overall, this place might not be the best to gt a wide range of opinions.Although ultimately, you get what you give. If you want to optimize the number of guys who are attracted to you, be the best looking version of yourself you can be. That sure as hell doesn't entail butterfly shirts though. There's always guys into any number of different looks...no matter what you wear, for the most part you'll get guys who are "into that" (whatever that is). Concert shirts (might) get you rockers, but might not be the cup of tea of a different set of guys, just the same way as some guys love to see a woman covered in pink & butterflies, but other men would prefer to chew glass.

KATY_did
"HAHA curiouser you took the words right out of my mouth!!! This is not the place for a fair and diverse poll on this subject.I am a girly girl, but advice that you have to be girly to get a guy's attention is just flat out wrong. EVERY person is different and unique and that is what is so awesome!! OP, the only advice you will get on a makeup/beauty board is advice to be super girly and glam. Be confident in yourself and you don't need our little old opinions on how to look, I am sure you are fabulous just the way you are!!

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